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Can Interracial Love Triumph through Adversity?

Check out my latest article that I wrote for Multicultural Familia it's titled "Can Interracial Love Triumph through Adversity?"  Do you agree or disagree with the article?  What are your thoughts on interracial love and diversity?

Great article and questions

Great article and questions about interracial relationships/marriage. I like you agree that interracial love is strenghtened by all the drama. If you can get through that you can get through anything.

A Transracially-Adopted Child's Bill of Rights

Great blog post by Tracy on her Multiracial Family Blog!   ~Every child is entitled to love and full membership in her family.~Every child is entitled to have his culture embraced and valued.~Every child is entitled to parents who know that this is a race conscious society.~Every child is entitled to parents who know that she will experience life differently than they do.~Every child is entitled to parents who are not looking to “save” him or to improve the world.~Every child is entitled to parents who know that being in a family doesn’t depend on “matching.”~Every child is entitled to parents who know that transracial adoption changes the family forever.~Every child is entitled to be accepted by extended family members.~Every child is entitled to parents who know that, if they are white, they benefit from racism.~Every child is entitled to parents who know that they can’t transmit the child’s birth culture if it is not their own.~Every child is entitled to have items at home that are made for and by people of his race.~Every child is entitled to opportunities to make friends with people of her race or ethnicity.~Every child is entitled to daily opportunities of positive experiences with his birth culture.~Every child is entitled to build racial pride within her own home, school, and neighborhood.~Every child is entitled to have many opportunities to connect with adults of the child’s race.~Every child is entitled to parents who accept, understand and empathize with her culture.~Every child is entitled to learn survival, problem-solving, and coping skills in a context of racial pride.~Every child is entitled to take pride in the development of a dual identity and a multicultural/multiracial perspective on life.~Every child is entitled to find his multiculturalism to be an asset and to conclude, “I’ve got the best of both worlds.”Adapted by Liza Steinberg Triggs from “A Bill of Rights for Mixed Folks,” by Marilyn Drame (which in-turn was adapted from Dr. Maria P. P. Roots, “A Bill of Rights for People of Mixed Heritage).

How Multi-Ethnic People Identify Themselves

Great discussion on NPR on "How Multi-Ethnic People Identify Themselves".  Do you agree or disagree?  If you are Mixed-Race or Multi-Ethnic who do you most Identify with if any racial group?

Aren't we all trying to fit in during high school?

Don't we all change ourselves or our image to fit in during high school? It was good to see he majority of biracial and multi-ethical people claim all aspectsof who they are. I just felt like she didn't touch on the point of the majority of teenagers are trying to fit in, so what makes Mixed-race teenagers different?

You make a very good

You make a very good point...who isn't trying to fit in in high school. It was a good discussion but I feel the emphasis on teenagers only choosing one race over the other was a little one sided given the fact children in his age group tend to change to fit in.

Jill Scott on Interracial Dating of Black Men & White Women

This is an excerpt of an essay Jill Scott wrote regarding Interracial Dating, mainly Black men dating White women.  What's your opinion? ' My position is that for women of color, this very common “wince” has solely to do with the African story in America.When our people were enslaved, “Massa” placed his Caucasian woman on a pedestal. She was spoiled, revered and angelic, while the Black slave woman was overworked, beaten, raped and farmed out like cattle to be mated. She was nothing and neither was our Black man. As slavery died for the greater good of America, and the movement for equality sputtered to life, the White woman was on the cover of every American magazine. She was the dazzling jewel on every movie screen, the glory of every commercial and television show. She was unequivocally the standard of beauty for this country, firmly unattainable to anyone not of her race. We daughters of the dust were seen as ugly, nappy mammies, good for day work and unwanted children, while our men were thought to be thieving, sex-hungry animals with limited brain capacity.We reflect on this awful past and recall that if a Black man even looked at a White woman, he would have been lynched, beaten, jailed or shot to death. In the midst of this, Black women and Black men struggled together, mourned together, starved together, braved the hoses and vicious police dogs and died untimely on southern back roads together. These harsh truths lead to what we really feel when we see a seemingly together brother with a Caucasian woman and their children. That feeling is betrayed. While we exert efforts to raise our sons and daughters to appreciate themselves and respect others, most of us end up doing this important work alone, with no fathers or like representatives, limited financial support (often court-enforced) and, on top of everything else, an empty bed. It’s frustrating and it hurts!Our minds do understand that people of all races find genuine love in many places. We dig that the world is full of amazing options. But underneath, there is a bite, no matter the ointment, that has yet to stop burning. Some may find these thoughts to be hurtful. That is not my intent. I’m just sayin’. (via tvoneonline.com)  So what's your take on Jill Scott's opinion?

Stop living in the past

We do need to understand the past so that we don't make the same mistakes in the future, but we can not continue to blame the past for our present situations.  I am a black man that is married to a white woman and in no way did I intend to make her my "trophy".  Before I was married I dated women of all different races, most of them were black.  When I met my wife and chose to marry her it was because she was the best woman that I have ever known in my life regardless of her skin color.  I can not be concerned what society thinks of our relationship.  I married her because I wanted to be happy.  I refuse to live my life worried about what ignorant, racist or stereotypical people might think or how they might feel.  Interracial relationships are the future.  We represent open-minded people who judge others by their character and not their color.  No one now can change anything that happened in the past, but we can change how we live in the future.  Miss Jill Scott you only explained half of the story.  How do you explain the many white man/black woman interracial couples.  This is very common where my wife and I live.  Your theory is a hundred years old.  I do like your artistic expressions in your music but you kind of disappointed me with your close minded comments about this interracial love.  It seems that so many people are scared of what other people think of them that they can not do what is right for themselves.  If I was worried about what other people thought I would have married a black woman just so I could fit the mold and not offend anyone.  Expand your horizons people, this is a new world.  We can't move forward unless we look forward!

Via Facebook member

Contributed by one of our facebook members "Remembering your history is very important. However, remembering just a portion of it is not good enough. If your gonna talk about slavery, know all of it. White's werent the only one that had blacks as slaves. So did the Spaniards. And recently I read on a frat page about how the Middle East had blacks as slaves 1000 yrs prior to the white man. She is entitled to her feelings and opinions . Ignorant people have been around for thousands of years. Like my husband says (who is black)" I have never been a slave & dont know what its like to be a slave." For myself I'm asian and white & loving it! My husband & I teach & talk to our kids about slavery so they can appreciate what the ancestors went through and help them realize how important and good their life is now because of them. Because of the history I ask my kids to keep in mind regarding how they can honor their ancestors. I can go on about this topic but I wont. All I can say is were all made in Gods image. My skin color does not define me. I'm mixed and proud and so are my kids! And dont forget all the mixed celebrities out there...Boris, Halle, Alicia, Jessica Alba, Kimora, Tiger, the list goes on! Mixed by love is EVERYWHERE...and we arent going ANYWHERE!"

Multicultural Whiteness

How many white people actually see themselves as Multicultural?  Here is a great definition of Multicultural Whiteness than few think about.  

Half Siblings

Great article about half-siblings!  Kids are kids and siblings are siblings, I love the way this dad tells it how it is.

Brothers and Sisters

We were never raised to be labeled as half, step or part siblings. Those are my brothers and sisters. This was a great story!

Loving in Alabama by Monique Fields

Monique Fields tells her heart felt story of finding interracial love while she educates us readers about the history of interracial relationships and interracial marriage

Great article.  I also live

Great article.  I also live in Alabama (but am from Cali) and when I had my first son (in 1993) there were maybe 2 other mixed kids in the town where I live.  I did not even know about the law on the books until it came up for a vote to remove it.  I could not believe (but part of me could) that something like that ever existed but even more, that it still existed.  Wow at the looks we would get.  Very few people have ever been downright and/or openly ugly but there is sometimes subtle things that occur.  I think it is sad in this day and age to be so caught up in something so trivial but it is okay.  I am still going to live, laugh and love. 

Keep doing me & be a happy little mixed family

Sadly, the ones who have been the most verbal in my life have been my family :(   It's crazy that people are so bothered by what we do I think it just means they are so miserable in their own lives they want to take us down with them.  But I am going to keep doing me and be happy with my little Mixed Family :) 

How did you cope?

How did you cope with the change from CA to GA?  I have heard that out there racial tension is greater than in CA did it take you awhile to adjust?  Did it anger you?  I find myself getting angry over just the occasional looks we get here, I can't imagine how I would act if it was worse.  I am sure I'd adjust but at first it would drive me CRAZY :)

Culture shock

I went through a bit of culture shock even before I had kids.  I was dating a black guy (I am white) and we (by coincidence) were both from Cali so we did not know it was taboo.  So, people would tell me to my face "You are dating a black guy!"  And, because of how/where I was raised, it really had not occurred to me in that context.  Then, when my oldest was born, there were less than 10 mixed kids in our town.  I had a little experience from helping with my friend's son but my mom (who was raised in Cali) would get very angry at the looks (she still does, lol).  I really tune out the looks and always have.  I think it is funny as long as they don't cross a line.  Once, my son went out to eat with a friend and his parents were astonished and asked me how I could take it.  They stopped by a grocery store and when they came out with their white son and my mixed son, a man almost wrecked looking at them.  My kids are thankfully well-adjusted/secure and don't really care either.      

OMG, Culture Shock...I bet!!!

OMG, I bet!!  I grew up in So Cali too (cali girls...LOL)  and we moved to WA when I was in High School that was seriously a culture shock to me due to lack of diversity,weather, no big city etc.  Didn't date to much their so I didn't have the experience of an interracial relationship early on in that environment.  I can only imagine the looks you get because we are in Houston where interracial couples and mixed families are abundant and we still get looks.  Another member who is in Houston also commented a couple months ago that a mom pulled her kid off the playground when their daughters started playing together.  Seriously???  I mean if it's like that here I can't even imagine how it is in area's that aren't so diverse.  Your kids being secure within themselves is all good parenting skills :)  You did well!!  

Racist History not in our face

Great story!  I never knew all this history, living on the west coast I guess all those laws and racist history isn't in our face.  I still cannot believe the law was still in effect in 2000 and for people to still want to keep it alive is ridiculous. 

Trials of the Interracial Couple

Chantilly Patino is the founder of Multicultural Familia, she recently wrote an article about Trials of the Interracial Couple.  Sadly I think a lot on interracial couples can relate.  Have you face similar experiences in your interracial relationships?

I chose to be Happy! Article by Angelique Ayers

I chose to be Happy!  is an article written by this site's founder Angelique Ayers for the new Multicultural Familia"s online magazine.  It's a beautiful article describing the choice she had to make between her interracial marriage and her family.  Read it and then tell us know your thoughts!

Good for you!

I read your article, and good for you!  For making the choice on your happiness and state of mind because knowing how people feel about someone because of their "race" can drive a person nuts on trying to figure out why they feel that way.  When I first got with my husband, his mom "disowned" him. I had so many strikes against me, and the first one, I was not Samoan. So sad your mom and brother felt that way about your husband. Not based on something he did to them, but rather who he was as a person. Something he had no control over. Sometimes you have to do just what you did. Remove the negative element out of ones life~ Here's to your happily ever after!

Happy & Free

Thank you it truly has been happily ever after!!   It was really hard to let go but I never regret doing so.  It took such a load off of my shoulders and really let me be happy and free.  Their misery is all theirs to keep, sad but they have to figure happiness out for themselves.  I found mine!!!